Post by Mommy2amazingGrace on Nov 6, 2005 19:02:24 GMT -5
THIS MAY BE GRAPHIC, SO BE WARNED BEFORE YOU READ. IT MAY BE HARD FOR SOME OF YOU TO READ, BUT I REALLY NEED SOME HELP.
I lost my angel, Grace Ann, 2 1/2 months. I was so miserable. My sister was pregnant, and every time I looked at her, the pain got worse. Then my little cousin got pg right after I MC and it hit me hard again. Unfortunatly my cousin MC also. But then right after she MC, about 3 weeks later, she got pg again. She is now 19 weeks. I hated her. I hated the fact that she was pregnant and not me. Someone like her does not need a baby. She does drugs, drinks, and smokes while she is pg. I was so angry that someone like her could stay pg and I couldn't. In my heart, I wanted her to still be suffering like me. She shouldn't be pregnant. It's just not fair.
Well, last week, she went to the dr for a checkup, and they discovered that she has no amniotic fluid. She has bled since she got pg, and it caused her membrane to swell and burst, leaking all of her amniotic fluid slowly. The baby is ok, thankfully, for now. As long as she carries him, he'll survive. But yesterday, she discovered that the umbilical cord, is HANGING out of her. She went to the er and they told her that she is 2cm dilated and sent her home. She should have the baby sometime this week. They also told her that the baby will die once she has it. Only a miracle can save it.
I feel so bad. I wanted her to be so miserable, that I feel like I caused this to happen. I never wanted to hurt the baby. I just know that she is not the type of person who should be a mother. That baby belongs with God, if anyone. Not her. But I swear, I never wanted this to happen. I am feeling so guillty that i don't know what to do. Please help me. I am so confused.
I lost my angel, Grace Ann, 2 1/2 months. I was so miserable. My sister was pregnant, and every time I looked at her, the pain got worse. Then my little cousin got pg right after I MC and it hit me hard again. Unfortunatly my cousin MC also. But then right after she MC, about 3 weeks later, she got pg again. She is now 19 weeks. I hated her. I hated the fact that she was pregnant and not me. Someone like her does not need a baby. She does drugs, drinks, and smokes while she is pg. I was so angry that someone like her could stay pg and I couldn't. In my heart, I wanted her to still be suffering like me. She shouldn't be pregnant. It's just not fair.
Well, last week, she went to the dr for a checkup, and they discovered that she has no amniotic fluid. She has bled since she got pg, and it caused her membrane to swell and burst, leaking all of her amniotic fluid slowly. The baby is ok, thankfully, for now. As long as she carries him, he'll survive. But yesterday, she discovered that the umbilical cord, is HANGING out of her. She went to the er and they told her that she is 2cm dilated and sent her home. She should have the baby sometime this week. They also told her that the baby will die once she has it. Only a miracle can save it.
I feel so bad. I wanted her to be so miserable, that I feel like I caused this to happen. I never wanted to hurt the baby. I just know that she is not the type of person who should be a mother. That baby belongs with God, if anyone. Not her. But I swear, I never wanted this to happen. I am feeling so guillty that i don't know what to do. Please help me. I am so confused.