This would have

[sadmomof3and1angel]

been my month. My baby would have been due on 11/21/05. I miss my angel so much that the pain is unreal. Any ideas what I can do to try and make this a LITTLE easier on myself?

[AlanasMomma]

I just wanted to send you good thoughs and tons of hugs.
My edd was Dec. 7th. Approaching EVER so quickly.
And the closer it gets, the worse I get.
I'm not sure what to say...
Other than I've been told that once the edd passes, it seems to start getting easier.
GL to you.
*hugs*

[sadmomof3and1angel]

Thank you so much and my heart goes out to you in the worst way. I hate that we have to go through this. It isnt fair, but they say in time the pain doesnt go away but it does get easier. Im still waiting for this to happen. At least were back uo here and have each other again!!

[christal]

When I read that today is your Baby's Birthday, it made my heart ache - I'm so sorry

My Baby's Birthday would be Christmas Day, and I am trying to figure out how to get through the holidays

[beautifulgirl]

My heart goes out to all of you. I just passed my EDD (October 25). I had a special "thank you" dinner with close freinds who have been so supportivie of me through all of this. It helped to celebrate the positive side (my friends, what I've learned) rather than focus on the loss. Getting past my due date has made things a little easier. It's like I can finally breath again and think about what I want my life to be, not what it would have been. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

Colleen

[Darlanne]

First I want to say how sorry I am that you are facing your angel's edd with sadness when it should be a day filled with happiness & joy. What I want you to know is that whatever way you choose to honor your precious baby will be perfect because it will be done with genuine love from his/her Mommy's heart. Many of us have done different things from balloon releases to donations in our angel's names;all are beautiful testimonies of the love you will always have for your baby, it's just trying to decide which one is the best that is the hardest. This year my dh and I will mark our James' "birthday" with naming a star after him and donating to our favorite children's charity. Also since James' "birthday" is on Dec. 5th we always pick a girl and boy angel off of the angel Christmas trees and buy gifts for those children in his honor. Whatever you decide to do, as I said earlier will be perfect. I know this upcoming day will be hard, I am sure it is already getting hard, but know we are always here sweetie; you will not be alone.

Much Love and Prayers for Peace
xxxooo

[Lendy]

I have some advice from an ol' pro!

I got pregnant in November of 2002 and lost my little girl at 12 weeks in February of 2003.

The first year for my EDD, my DH and I went to a 'Build A Bear' Workshop and created a bear. Not a memorial bear, but a bear for our next child. This was our way of looking towards the future. But you could always create a bear in memory of your angel.

For Christmas, each year, DH and I purchase a new ornament. Either an angel or something else with Jamie on it and the year. (ie: Jamie 2003, Jamie 2004, Jamie 2005, etc). We have a special tree that sits out (a small one) with lights and 'her' ornaments on it.

On the day that we lost Jamie, we purchase a pink balloon, write a message and put it in it, and release it. It makes us feel like we can still communicate with her, and just maybe she gets the balloon as it floats to Heaven as her 'birthday' gift.

My therapist, said that it is ok to 'involve' your angel in your holidays. That is helps with grief and enables you to live without your child, knowing that s/he is still with you on these special days.

If you need to talk, please feel free to PM me or to email me at [e-mail]!

LENDY

[sadmomof3and1angel]

Lendy

That is beautiful, thank you!!

[christal]

The Christmas Ornament is the BEST idea that I have heard. THANK YOU!

That will mean a lot to my Husband and I b/c our EDD was 12/25

I feel a weight lifted off of me b/c I have been trying to figure out something special for my Angel to be remembered.

Christal

[Sue]

Your EDD is definitely a tough day that nothing or nobody can really prepare you for. My EDD was 9/20/05 and I found that the weeks building up to that date were harder than the actual day. Looking back, I also realize that I was obsessed and so desperate to be pregnant before I had to face that day. My DH and I chose to honor our daughter by going to the ocean where we each read a poem for her and then placed bouquets of pink flowers in the water. The ocean means a lot to both of us so it makes us feel good to think of her when we are at the ocean. My thoughts and prayers will be with you all as your EDD's come up.

Hugs.

[nikkimount]

Sadmom,
I will be right there with you. *Holding your hand wherever you are* We apparently got pg around the same time b/c my edd is right before yours.

[XicaChica]

I'M SO SORRY. I am right there with you.My DD would be Nov 8th.

[teacher4]

I feel for you...I have been there three times before. What I found was that I dreaded the days leading up to my EDD, and once my EDD arrived, I was able to keep busy and was so happy when it was time to go to bed...that I had gotten through the day.

I will keep you and baby in my prayers
Hugs
Dominique

[azch]

For me, the dread of upcoming anniverseries has been far worse than any of the actual days. I wish I had some kind of advice that could make it easier for you, but I am still just doing the best I can and taking it a day at a time. I think that is all any of us can do... I hope you find some moments of peace during this especially emotional month. I am here if you ever would like to talk.

[Lendy]

I'm so glad that you like my ideas. Whatever you do to remember your angels will be perfect! The first Christmas DH and I bought little angel ornaments for all of the people in our lives who 'help' us during that year. We wrote a letter to them, thanking them and letting them know how much it meant to us (from Jamie). Just another idea, that helped us and the others that are involved in our lives.

Also, as many others have said, the days leading up the the anniversaries were much worse for us also. I hope that you will be gentle on yourselves.

Lendy