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Post by sydrodriguez on Apr 1, 2015 12:33:18 GMT -5
My husband and I tried to get pregnant for a year and a half. We finally got our PPT just after Valentine's day and we were obviously very excited. We went in for or first untrasound and the doctor said all she saw was a yolk sac. The look on her face told me this was not going to end well. Two weeks later we went in for a follow up to check baby's progress and the miscarriage was confirmed. Two days ago I had a D and C. Now I am home "recovering." How can I recover from this?
Family and friends have offered their support so I shouldn't feel as alone as I do. But I do feel alone. Knowing that miscarriage is common doesn't help. Knowing I'm not infertile doesn't help.
I was expecting to be pregnant over the summer. I was expecting to finally enjoy being a mother on Mother's Day. I thought I would finally be able to contribute to a conversation when my friends start (ALWAYS) talking about their kids and breastfeeding and what kind of diapers they use and blah blah blah. I had plans for a nursery. And now I have nothing. I'm empty. And broken. And scared to try again.
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Post by bystander on Apr 6, 2015 15:19:52 GMT -5
I dont know what else to tell you since, I am experiencing the same thing too, now. My obgyn just broke the news to me a few days ago and I'm going in for a check tomorrow and discuss my options. I am still in the stage of denial and like you, will still wait for 2 weeks for confirmation. Still praying for a good outcome though.
I want you to know that you're not alone and there are people who will silently grieve with you and words are not necessary. It really helps me now that I am able to talk to people who has experienced the same thing as me, and is always happy to share their success stories. Like you, I'm scared but I am hopeful.
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Post by sydrodriguez on Apr 7, 2015 22:19:36 GMT -5
Bystander, I'm so sorry that this is happening to you too. I hope you have people close to you who you can lean on right now.
I'll keep you, and all of us silent sufferers, in my prayers.
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Post by libralise on Apr 19, 2015 11:36:38 GMT -5
It's not a club that anyone wants to be a part of. The "miscarriage / baby loss" club. While I am sad that you are joining us, I do hope that as your journey continues you can find some sort of peace or understanding here. I think that until our friends have experienced a loss of their own, or fertility struggles of their own, they have no idea how isolating their topics of conversations can be. I experienced the exact same thing that you are talking about - friends going on and on and on about child birth and raising babies, or when I Was going through my divorce, noticed friends going on and on about their husbands. And even if they were just complaining about their husbands, their conversations served to hold a mirror up in front of my face and remind me of what I did not have. When you lose a baby you did not just lose that pregnancy - you lost the Mothers Day you are referring to, the 1st birthday, 1st day of school, etc. Though it may not be consoling to either of you right now, please know that we are thinking of you and sending you loving healing energy. It has been almost three years since my last (and second) loss, and while it absolutely is something that I still carry on a daily basis, the carrying of it has gotten less cumbersome.
I have named my babies, and I have a piece of commemorative jewellery that is very dear to me. I wear it all of the time. I recognize my miscarriage anniversaries. I found that these practices have been comforting to me, and perhaps you would find some solace in them as well.
Sending love and hugs to you both.
xoxx
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