Baby shower after stillbirth?

[juliazmom]

I'm not sure what to do. In my last pregnancy I lost my daughter at 39 wks. I had a beautiful baby shower and glad I did..although it was painful to have so much hope and planning only to lose her later.

This time I'm having a good pregnancy, 33 wks along and they plan on inducing at 37 wks. This time it's a boy and all along I've said no baby shower out of fear. Now I'm feeling kind of guilty for not celebrating him and trusting his healthy arrival. I was thinking of having a shower in 3 wks after a friend offered.

Not sure how to treat this- do i let my friends throw a baby shower or wait until after he's born. I've had mixed feelings about after since who knows how I will feel after the birth.
Just wondering what other moms after stillbirth have felt about baby showers in subsequent pregnancies......

[loresca]

yes, i think it would be perfect to wait until he is born

[alyk]

Honestly, I don't see any problem in waiting. My brother and I are both adopted after my
mom lost her child shortly after birth. There was no shower for me. There was one for my brother after he came home. Besides, everyone can meet the baby that way

[dIXIe]

I say wait until baby is here That way you don't have to worry about the "what if's " with the gifts and so on...
Also, this way you'll be able to fully celebrate your tiny little one's new life!!! ((((HUGS))))

[wuvmyangel93]

Either way sounds fine.

My son had a meet the baby tiny get together with a few gifts when he was a month old, he died at 15 weeks.

My daughter NO shower and only a few gifts when she was born a couple outfits, a stroller from my dad, and that was about it.

[samallyjoe]

I had my 2 ds after my stillbirth, I would not let anyone throw me a shower until after he was born. With my youngest dd (my second child after my loss) I let my family throw me a shower before she was born. Do what makes you comfortable.

[Krista]

Though I haven't had a stillbirth there was baby showers for both of my boys after they were born. Just how it worked out. Especially with my 1st we didn't know the gender until he was born.

[caspersabelpip]

I waited till after my son was born.

[proudmomof3]

I would say to put less stress on you. I would open the opportunity to be able to have one after they are born. Your baby will be a hit at the shower. I am thinking of you..

[jessb]

I say do whatever makes you comfortable....for me, I have said even before I got pg again that I won't have one until after the baby is in my arms...not sure if I will even have one until the kid is like 6 mos old, b/c we are moving to Michigan where we don't know anyone (hopefully before the baby is born). I was thinking I would call it something other than baby shower...like "Let's celebrate the arrival of baby _____" or something like that...I want to have more of a co-ed party anyway!

[caitysmom]

I had a shower after my son was born. Mostly because I had a boy & there had not been a boy born in the family for 13 years so everyone was excited. I was not expecting one but I sure enjoyed it.

Do what feel right for you.

[firewind]

I struggle with superstition. I only had a baby shower with my first child. It was made very clear to me by both family and friends that you only get one. My sister let me know this the day I announced my subsequent pregnancies and it was a bummer. I think allowing your friends/family to have a small get together before your ds's arrival but save the baby shower for later so everyone can love all over him and bring him gifts. I've been to those events and they were called "Welcome to the World" parties.
I hope it all works out.

[sarabear]

HUGS.

[sylvia]

(((((HUGS)))))

[sarabear]

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