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Post by nyochum on Mar 31, 2017 5:47:15 GMT -5
Hi! I'm new to this forum, but seeking support. I have 2 healthy beautiful children (9 & 5) and recently delivered my Angel baby at 19 weeks. According to doctors, she passed at 16wks5days. They are not confirmed what took her little life, but thinking it might have been umbilical cord complications. I reflect on that week leading up to her passing like yesterday. Which says a lot because I tend to forget what I ate for breakfast sometimes. I can't help but think some of my actions may have caused her complications. Such as...exhausted from parenting 2 other children, played soccer with my 5 year old and was working way to much. This baby was a surprise baby and I just can't wrap my head around why she was taken so soon. My heart hurts, my mind won't stop and life around continues to move on, as it should. Does anyone have any ideas of ways I can heal as I try to move forward each day? I'm scared to face people at the kids school, work and anyone that may have known I was expecting. Uggg...this is so hard  |
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Post by redbarron980 on May 2, 2017 13:54:40 GMT -5
One of the best therapy tools I have ever been taught is writing. I keep a journal and when my life is bad and I wish I could talk to someone (but I really don't want to) I write in my journal. I felt like after a while people did not want to talk about it anymore. Coming to this site helps. Reading someone else's story and seeing how similar it is to mine makes me feel like I am not so alone.
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Post by triangelmom on Jun 5, 2017 18:49:20 GMT -5
Writing and sharing your thoughts is very healing and cathartic and whether you share it with others or keep it to yourself, I can tell you that it is a big step in the direction of healing. I have lost three pregnancies and hearing of other people's losses definitely helped me in realizing that I wasn't alone. Please know that you are not alone either.
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Post by emily on Jul 16, 2017 3:41:19 GMT -5
You can't blame yourself because the reality is that you may never know. I've had four miscarriages and no definitive answers for why I lost any of them. Go easy on yourself.
As for healing, I'm not much help. I lost my first on 1/4/10 and I still grieve my first baby. One thing that helped me a little was giving my babies names. Don't be afraid to talk about your miscarriage. People tend to put a stigma on talking about mc because it makes them feel uncomfortable but if it helps you, talk as much as you want.
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