Temporary lost children

[caesurii]

This is all very hard to explain but I will the best I can.. I was an alcoholic and a single mom of two beautiful little girls. I have been clean for quite awhile now and have no desire to go back to it.. however, the one time I relapsed after moving back in with my parents after the father of my babies had severely abused me for 3yrs. Anyway, because of one slip up, my dad (convinced by my sister and brother, who all share one brain) had called children services. While working with my case workers and doing what I could to get on my feet and get the resources I needed but then my dad gave my brother and sister the numbers to my case workers and started telling them all these lies about how I lock them in their room for half of the day, which was not true and keep in mind, they live away from here and are never over here. I don't know where they came up with all this bs but when we had a family meeting at childrens services, I was basically forced to give away my kids to my brother and sister until they feel I am able to take care of them.. which will never happen so I know once I get on my feet all the way (one of the reasons I was held back from being on my own is because of health problems that are being taken care of.. I would never do anything to harm my kids.. not ever.) , I know I will at least have to take my brother to court when the time comes but right now, the agreement was that I get to see my oldest (whom my brother has) at least once a month and I haven't seen her in over two months because he doesn't like the guy I am dating.. makes no sense to me as my bf wasn't around the kids much and when he was, they loved him.. even my niece loves him. None of this makes sense and I cry myself to sleep every night. I don't have much in my life but I prided myself on being a decent mom. I am on my way towards getting a place of my own and am desperately looking for a job. I was told that once I get a place and hold a job for 3 months, I can get them back but to avoid going through the court system, they would have to sign my kids back to me which I don't think my brother would do no matter how well I am doing because of his psychotic wife who has two boys and always wanted a girl plus made comments that shows she thinks they will get my oldest forever. He wont even let me talk to her on the phone and I still have a right to see both my girls. So I may have to take them both to court to set court ordered visitation.. I just don't know how to go about doing that.. anyone going through something simular or has any idea what I should do??

[jezebel]

I don't know if this helps, My husband and I took custody of his daughters kids we finally had it or I should say I did I had told my husband a few times I was going to leave but things got better and I didn't but the last time I told him I was going and I was not talking and more I talked to him 3 times but this time I was ready and I asked him when he wanted me to move but then as I was sitting out on the front deck I said if I was able to I would of got custody of her kids long ago.
She had left them with anyone the last one she had with the one daughter was a 27 year old At the time and her 7 year old daughter he was to watch both her daughters but he didn't want to watch the youngest which a red flag when up it went up when he was to only watch the 7 year. anyhow years when by and he was taking the child to place but on one time he was to take the child and another young female to the beach but later found out it was only him and her. this went on till we heard that this guy was accused of messing with a friend's of the daughter daughter so now she is not being looked after by this guy he is charged with 1st degree rape and indecent liberties .
The oldest child I am talking about has post traumatic stress syndrome from being bounced around to who ever and is seeing a shrink and therapist. Has been on a few drugs to help her. but the think that got me is I was always baby sitting and it is not once I did this through their lives their mother seemed like she wanted them, she got a check for one of them the father died of a drug over dose. a year ago we had the kids and she would not come home I was blamed for not doing something with the oldest and the oldest was lying that she told me but I didn't make her do her home work or she told me she didn't have any and then tell her mother she told me she did.
We took custody after my husband decide he would want me to stay. in this we went through court and after that the court said she MIGHT get them back in Aug. but she had cleaned up her act as I understand she was on drugs and picked the drugs over her kids the money for the one daughter I can only guess was used to buy drugs but she moved a hour away and she is living with a guy we like him a lot he seems like he would not let anything happen to the kids and will not let her run like she did with us she is doing well April when my son and father was in the fire I had to go to PA we went through mediation and in that MEDIATION we talked of what she need to do before she gets the kids back which she doesn't have all done but is doing well.
You NEED to go through court and then have mediation the court then can said what you need to do and if you fulfill it you can take them back to court and the court will decide if you have got your life together the court will decide NO YOU KIN they have to PROVE you are not fit. I don't know if any of this helps and I don't know if you are in the USA or another country but I hope it helps some. I had to explain some so you understand what I went through.

Rhayden