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Post by missingisaiah on Nov 8, 2011 20:56:32 GMT -5
We get a newsletter from the donor network. It comes out quarterly. There's always an article called "Profile of a Donor."
For a long time I never thought about writing one about Isaiah and submitting it because he was so young when he died, I can't write about him going to school, playing sports, making friends, etc.
However, lately, I've been thinking of writing one. He did not live long, but he mattered, he still matters. He is loved and missed.
What do you ladies think and if I do write one, can I get your input before I submit it?
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Post by weeblemom on Nov 8, 2011 23:00:13 GMT -5
I think it is a lovely idea, though it may be very emotional for you to do. I think it is amazing that Isaiah had such an impact on the life of someone he didn't even know. I think it would be a wonderful tribute to him and definitely educational for those who read the newsletter. ((((HUGS))))
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Post by myangelamanda on Nov 9, 2011 7:18:17 GMT -5
Oh Brenda!!! YES YES YES YES YES a MILLION TIMES!!!!!!!!!!! I think this is something you should do if you're feeling it!!!!!!!!! I'd love to read what you put together and give you input!!!!!
Sweet Isaiah matters and ALWAYS will matter~!!! Every child on this site matters no matter how long they lived. A child touches a parent's heart and soul like nothing else ever can or will. He's a beautiful little boy and I honestly feel like I am so blessed to have gotten to know him through you.
Good luck!!! Let us know when you want our help!!!!!
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Post by jaredsmommyforever on Nov 12, 2011 2:31:25 GMT -5
Brenda,
I think it s a fabulous idea! And it seems to me that to do this is speaking to you. So go with your heart. Of course Isaiah matters, and you can make such a wonderful tribute to him. How meaningful it will be. I would love to read what you write. Can't wait to see it!
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Post by missingisaiah on Nov 15, 2011 23:45:56 GMT -5
Here's the very rough, first draft. Your opinions would be so welcomed. It was so much harder to write than I thought it would be.
Our son, Isaiah, was born on September 26, 2006. I will never forget my first look at him. I thought, “He looks just like his daddy.” My second thought was, “He needs a haircut!”
The first night in the hospital he woke up every 3 hours. The second night, ugh! He was awake almost every hour, not to eat, to be held. But, of course I loved holding him, even if I was ½ asleep.
My parents came out to see him. I remember how he snuggled right into them as they held him. They too remarked on how much he looked like my husband and on his hair.
I remember how we all laughed about how his hair went into a mohawk after being washed and dried. I joked he wanted to be a 1980’s rock star.
Isaiah adored his daddy. He would look at him with this look of complete adoration. And, he would smile his crooked ½ smile.
Like most babies, he hated tummy time, but it didn’t take him long until he could lift up his head and turn it from side to side. We were all amazed by his strength.
My husband and I would just hold him and be amazed: amazed by him, amazed by our first born, our son.
Then came that dreadful day in October. I was feeding him and suddenly he stopped breathing. My husband called 911. They were able to get him breathing again, but his brain had been damaged. At Children’s the doctor was very honest with us about his chances. On October 21, we were told his brain stem had died. We had two choices: take him off all machines and wait until his heart stopped beating, or go through the process of getting him declared brain dead. If we chose the second, we could possible donate organs.
I had grown up knowing about organ donation and the need for it. One of my uncles had needed a new kidney. As soon as I got my driver’s license I affixed the organ donor sticker.
My husband had not had the same experiences I had, so organ donation wasn’t something he ever really thought about before.
However, we both agreed if we could spare some other mother and father the pain of losing a baby, we were going to do it.
Because of his size, his blood type, and the length of time he went without oxygen, only Isaiah’s heart could be donated. But, we are both glad that since only one organ could be donated, it was his heart.
We regularly hear from the grandmother of the little boy that received Isaiah’s heart. It’s a comfort to know he is doing well, a comfort to know another family was spared the pain of having to bury a baby.
Isaiah lived only 3.5 weeks, but his life mattered, he is loved, he is missed, and his heart beats inside another child, helping his family make so many more memories than they would have had otherwise.
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Post by jaredsmommyforever on Nov 18, 2011 11:04:11 GMT -5
Brenda,
IT IS PERFECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is fantastic!!!!! I absolutely LOVE it. You did an amazing job, and what a tribute to your spectacular boy. I can't even think of one thing to recommend to improve it in any way, IT IS THAT GOOD. I am so moved by what you wrote. I hope and pray you will submit it-- it honors Isaiah and you and your husband, and it is a beautiful tribute to Isaiah. I am sure he is smiling.
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Post by missingisaiah on Nov 18, 2011 12:27:37 GMT -5
Thanks for the ones that shared your opinions. Please keep them coming.
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Post by weeblemom on Nov 18, 2011 17:38:05 GMT -5
(((Brenda))) I am crying my eyes out! This is so perfect, you have done a wonderful job!
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Post by Debs on Nov 19, 2011 22:48:48 GMT -5
Beautiful Brenda. It is perfect.
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Post by joan on Nov 20, 2011 20:40:19 GMT -5
Yes, beautiful Brenda -just right!
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Post by momofthreeplus1 on Nov 22, 2011 10:44:07 GMT -5
It is beautiful!
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Post by Clara Hinton on Nov 22, 2011 14:33:35 GMT -5
Brenda,
What a beautiful, sincere, from-the-heart tribute to your precious son who gave life to another child.
Please do submit this!!! I'm so very proud of you!
Love,
Clara
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Post by myangelamanda on Nov 23, 2011 8:01:53 GMT -5
((((((((((((((Brenda)))))))))))))))))))))))
I have to echo what everyone else here has written. It is such a beautiful tribute to Isaiah. I'm sure it wasn't easy to write, but you did it and the love you have for your sweet son is just so obvious to me as I read what you wrote.
xox
P.S. Caroline's mom and dad donated several organs ... one which went to another 15 year old girl (kidney) and as of now the only thing they know is what doctors have told them, but it was a success. Thought you'd like to know.
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Post by missingisaiah on Nov 23, 2011 21:23:31 GMT -5
I wish Caroline's parents had her, but I am glad they were able to donate several organs. I hope they find it a bit of comfort like my DH and I did.
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Post by Alaska on Nov 24, 2011 10:21:07 GMT -5
Big tears running down my face. I love it, Brenda. Isaiah, you, and your whole family are such a gift to this world.
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