Too much money?

[Krista]

I really want to adopt. A girl specifically. I have such a strong desire to have a daughter, especially since I feel that my losses were girls, but Dh just won't consider it since it's "too much money". Any suggestions? I live in Canada, btw. I know there are likely different ways to go about adoption in Canada then in the states.

[candace]

Krista, I responded to your post on MTOM before I saw this one. I know there's a federal tax credit in the US for adoption. I would start googling adoption assistance programs for Canada or for your province. One thing I do know would be similar in both countries is that there are companies who provide special financing for adopting families. I hope that your family will find a way.

[Krista]

Thanks Candace. I figured I would post it here as well since this is the adoption forum. I just keep praying Dh will have a change of heart...

[thesunsbirthday]

Krista, i'm not from these boards, but i lurk here every now and again (DH and i live a pretty unconventional life right now, so adoption's not something we see in our future, but we are both closely affiliated with the process and heartily support it as a family choice!). Not sure which province you're in, but a good place to start would be the Adoption Council of Canada (http://www.adoption.ca/AboutAdoption.html), where there is province-specific info available.

[ladyann]

I know in the states fostering to adopt is a very affordable option will have your family in my thoughts - hoping your dreams of a little girl come true

[Krista]

Thanks ladies.

Nichole-I have briefly considered that, but I don't think I'm cut out for fostering...

[marianne]

I think the problem is you really want a girl, where as dh may not feel that same specific need. After three boys I had my miscarriage it was reported to be a healthy girl. Yeah, thanks for that. My sister had 5 boys, one of my relatives had 12 daughters. She refused to pick up the last one at first ( this was in the days before ultrasound ).
I supposed you can't help wanting something so bad , and I totally know how you feel, but you know lifes a bit cruel sometimes.

[Krista]

I know that DH wants a daughter as well, but it's the financial issues.
Unfortunately this will have to go on the back burner for a while as we are really struggling financially, and I am emotionally. I know I couldn't handle having another child for a few years.

[marianne]

Krista, you're so young! I think you could wait for things to settle then make a plan in a few years.

[Krista]

Yes, I know I'm still young, but I just don't want too many years between my youngest son, Caleb, and the baby we will hopefully adopt. I don't want her feeling like an only child with her brothers being so much older and I don't want to feel like I'm completely starting over again once we get her.