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Post by Tonya on Jun 13, 2010 19:32:51 GMT -5
I am really thankful someone told me about this website I has helped me get through some of my grief. I was able to find people who know what i was going through! My Mom helped me with funeral arrangments at the time but she was very sad because she had no idea how to comfort me. But i think the fact that she took charge and got me help with fund for the cost of the arrangements was comfort to me.
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Post by sarabear on Jun 14, 2010 19:29:56 GMT -5
Hi I'm Sabrina. Most know me here. I came here in Feb 2008 when I lost our baby at 13 1/2 weeks due to a severe kidney infection and flu. I have three girls, Kirsten (11), Sara (5), and Cate (1). After we lost Peyton, I got pregnant again with a chemical pregnancy. Lost that baby on April 30, 2008. Got pregnant with Cate immediately (so fast my ob's office didn't believe me!) and had her after months of bedrest for bleeding, preterm labor, and severe pe. All of my girls have been delivered between 35-36 weeks due to severe pe. So if you have questions about that, I am your girl.
I work for the Government writing and negotiating govt contracts. I have been married for 15 years and I am 36. While I would love another one. I am so done with paying $1400 a month for daycare. I have been showing symptoms of an autoimmune issue/disease.
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Post by momto5 on Jun 15, 2010 10:47:55 GMT -5
Hi, I'm Kathy and I found SG while doing research after my 16 week loss in January of 2008. I'm fortunate to be a SAHM who homeschools her 5 children ages 14 down to 4.
I've been married to my HS sweetheart for 26 years and am 45 years old. My DH and I are still hoping for one more l/c to add to our brood but at my age it's probably not going to happen.
SG was a lifeline for me and I've had the pleasure to get to know some wonderful women here.
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Post by kacik on Jun 17, 2010 21:15:31 GMT -5
Hi there, Sorry its taken me so long to tell my story. Its been a long hard road and sometimes its hard to write down and relive it. I joined SG in 2006 after my 5th miscarriage. Dh and I were married in 2003 (been together since we were 16 and 18) We ttc soon after we were married. When I was 10 1/2 weeks I started to spot. We went to the hospital and found out that we had a missed m/c. It was a fluke we were told and its very common. So we tired again as soon as we could. They gave me an ultrasound at about 9 weeks. Again a missed m/c. I begged my doctor to do testing. While waitng for the testing to come back we were pregnant again. We found out I had a balacned translocation of chromosomes. Meaning we had a 50%chance of having a healthy egg that would produce a healthy baby. (ya right) So we kept trying. 5 m/c's later we decided to try IVF+PGD. While doing the genetic counselling we were told that we didn't have a 50% chance but more like a 10% chance or less on our own. We were hopeful that the IVF+PGD would bring us our miracle. In September 2009 we started the daily needles, ultrasounds and blood draws. My first attempt failed before we even got started. The meds weren't working. They cancelled. There goes $3500. We started a new protocol in November and it worked a bit better. In December we had our egg retrieval. Only 7 eggs were retrieved. 6 fertilized, and on day 3 there were only 5 to test. It was a Friday night when we found out they were all affected with the translocation. I was devistated but also had an emmence sense of relief that it was over. We had a answer. No more "maybe this time." At this time we are enjoying one another and our life as a couple. We may try an egg donor but we're not sure. If you've made it this far, thank you. Thank you to all my friends here. I have made some true and lasting friendships here that I don't know what I woudl do without them. You are all wonderful and supporting women. Lots of Love, Kaci
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Post by kimi on Jun 22, 2010 15:21:23 GMT -5
Hello everyone. I'm Kimi. I just had miscarriage on 18th June 2010.
It was 6 weeks and days. I had two scans before I lost my baby. Both time, I couldn't see my baby..
I don't know if I can get through this tragic experience..
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Post by thesunsbirthday on Jun 27, 2010 12:06:30 GMT -5
Dear, strong women,
i'm brand new here, and my story is still fresh. i'll post it, one day. In the meanwhile, the short version is that we lost our second babe a little under a week ago. We also have one healthy, beautiful, wise toddler. i'm a writer and a social worker and my partner is a poet. We share our home with my best friend, "our Nino" (godfather). All four of us are artists, too. i grew up in a household of independent women, many of whom are nurses, doulas and teachers. i'm currently training to be a doula.
i wanted to post here to thank you all for the remarkable community you've built here. In my desperate search for support, i looked into many websites and found many forums, but this is by far the safest and most supportive one i've come across. You are doing something wonderful-beautiful here, and i'm so excited to have found strong women.
With gratitude and admiration, -river
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Post by blackpearl on Jun 29, 2010 0:00:59 GMT -5
oh girls i just found this site, i love it.. i am a bit slow god love me,, i blame the blonde hair sometimes hahaha
my name is aisling, i am mammy to my angel Poerava who i lost at 7wks, she was only the size of 5 wks , drs reckon i lost her because of the evil large fibriod i have, i am on meds to shrink it before they take it out some time late aug or early sept.
i was a pastry chef in a large hotel company for 10yr and now moved to the house keeping dept in the same company and love it. i am learning so much. i am irish (no we never say TOP OF THE MORNIN TO YA) , i live one of the 120 islands of tahiti. i came here not knowing a word of french and now i can string some babble together.. not great but they know what i mean haha..
i love reading, twilight , harry potter, golden compass,lord of the rings, dan browne, and many more. i DONT COOK at home , i love cross stitch and crafty things, long walks, when i am not getting attacked by the werewolves here, who are so calm and friendly during the day and as soon as the sun starts to set, beware.. like all kinds of movies, just not horror or too much blood and guts,, yuck yuck...
well thats me for now.. so great to meet so many more of you wonderful ladies, and get to know some of you better..
ash and poe
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Post by marysmama on Jul 3, 2010 6:52:04 GMT -5
Hi ladies,
My name is Becky. I've been married to DH for 12 years. We had issues with infertility for six years before finally getting pregnant in 2005 only to have consecutive losses. We finally were blessed with the miracle of DD in 2009.
When I'm not working, I'm busy playing with and chasing after DD and our two dogs. In my downtime I love reading & playing on the computer with DH. Someday I'm going to get back into my cross stitching again too.
This website is awesome! It's great know that I'm "normal" with my feelings about my angels and the support everyone gives each other.
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Post by peaceinpopsicles on Jul 3, 2010 17:25:01 GMT -5
I feel like I'm standing up at an AA meeting or something...lol
I'm Rebecca. I feel like a wierdo because although I'm 9 weeks pregnant, I feel like I didn't grieve the loss of the pregnancy I had earlier this year. I thought once I'd miscarried I would go crazy, but I don't know that I ever really processed it.
I'm not sure what I'm looking for (if anything) or just hunting around for other ladies who have walked in my shoes - my husband is amazing, but he doesn't understand the way women do.
I feel cautious about this pregnancy not only on account of our miscarriage, but a family member who also miscarried. Things are very sensitive for her, and I don't know how to build a relationship with her with such a thing between us. I'm afraid she will push me away and think I'm a major bitch like she did last time.
I'm also hoping to find a place to freely discuss my pregnancy; as much as I love Facebook, nobody wants to know ALL that stuff!
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Post by sylvia on Jul 5, 2010 14:44:54 GMT -5
WELCOME...all to you new ladies! I see many names on here (last page) that I don't recognize, and I want you to know you are very welcome to be here!
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Post by Jen on Jul 16, 2010 10:44:55 GMT -5
Hi everyone. I'm Jen. I joined SG in the fall of 2009 after looking around online desperately for some kind of support. There are no support groups of any kind where I live, and I felt like I needed to find other women who knew how I was feeling. I've been married for 4 years to my amazing husband, I love him so much. We've been together for 9 years (since I was 15, he was 18 ) I honestly don't know where I'd be without him. We decided to TTC in February of 2009 and were thrilled and surprised to get pregnant right away- we found out on March 26th. On April 27th at our first appt, we found out we were having twins and were OVER the moon excited. The pregnancy was very uneventful. I had a lot of m/s, but other than that, no signs of any problems. I went in for my 20 week ultrasound on July 6, 2009 and we were so excited to find out what we were having. That was when our worlds came crashing down. Both babies were completely still. no flickers were seen. We were told both of our babies hearts had stopped beating. I delivered our baby girls, Carlee and Rylan on July 8. This has been by far the most difficult and painful experience that I have had to go through. I was extremely depressed and suicidal at many points in my journey through grief. I don't know what I would have done without my DH and all of you here on SG. I am so thankful for this site. After bleeding for 5 months, I finally had a D & C in November 2009. I had my first normal cycle in Dec and in Feb, DH and I decided to TTC again. We found out on the exact day we did with the twins (March 26th) that we were expecting again. I am currently almost 20 weeks pregnant and am so thankful for all the girls on the PAL board who are keeping me sane during this pregnancy. Thank you Clara, for this site....it has been such a lifeline for me and to everyone else, I am so thankful to know you all and you continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.....reading your stories touched my heart.
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Post by lisermo on Jul 19, 2010 12:17:15 GMT -5
Hello! I am Lisa- posting as LiserMo. I am from Columbus, Ohio and joined SG back in May 2010. We found out on Easter that I was pregnant. (I threw up on my dress driving to church and thought it was super strange!) My husband, Jon, and I got married in October 2009 after 4 years of dating, but we've been friends since 8th grade! At our 1st doctor's appointment at ~8 weeks we found out there was no heartbeat and the baby had stopped developing a week or two prior. I had a the physical miscarriage naturally on May 23rd. My sister, who is 22 has had 3 miscarriages in the past year which causes me lots of anxiety. 5 weeks after my miscarriage I lost my puppy which is also very devastating. He was only 18 months old. He was hit by a car (my mother in law let him out on accident) and paralyzed so I had to put him to sleep. We had decided the puppy should live with my brother in law and his wife when the baby came for a little while to make life easier, but when we lost my little bean I obviously couldn't give up Dexter, too! Anyways, I teach preschool (3-5 year olds) for 30 hours a week and am also a full time youth/young adult pastor to 5th grade- college age students. I'm very busy but also love to read, play saxophone, dance, paint, take photos and cook/eat! I'm very blessed by all of the help and support here at SG. I love that I can come with my hopes, fears, questions, updates and feel loved and supported. I often feel like everyone around me is sick of hearing about my loss and ttc issues so I appreciate you all!
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Post by crlemac on Aug 3, 2010 9:57:40 GMT -5
Hi everyone, My name's Crystal. I'm in Nova Scotia, and just joined SG after doing crazy research after losing my daughter to a cord accident last month. It's been a horrible, horrible experience, and I am so thankful to have found a place where other people can understand.
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Post by suzy2315 on Aug 4, 2010 12:07:47 GMT -5
I've been so busy spending time in the other forums, that I didn't notice this one at first. My name is Susan and I live in Michigan. I've been married to my husband Craig for 2 years this month. We knew we wanted to try to have children right after we got married, and because of my history of APS and lupus, my birth control options are limited, so we were thankful to finally just be able to relax and let things happen. After a few months, we started really focusing on TTC, and finally one long year later, I found out I was pregnant. I actually had scheduled an appointment with the RE because after one year, we were getting frustrated, but found out 2 days before my appt I was pregnant, so I cancelled. Unfortunately, I lost that baby at 9.5 weeks, but didn't find out until 12 weeks. I was scheduled for an office procedure, but the miscarriage happened naturally at home before I could make it to that appointment. We knew we wanted to get pregnant again right away, so despite my physican requesting us to wait 3 cycles, we started trying again right away. We found out we were pregnant again in February, but unfortunately, I also lost that baby quickly, after 6 weeks. I decided at this point to make another appt with the RE, just to make sure everything checked out fine. She said everything looked good, but why don't we just do a hysteroscopy to check out your uterus. That showed what looked to be retained products, so she scheduled me for a D&C. As it was going to take 4 weeks to get on the OR schedule, she decided to try progesterone, to see if that helped smooth out my lining and remove the tissue. I could tell she didn't have a lot of faith in that working, but I was anxious to avoid surgery, so I did. And miraculously, when I went back for repeat scope, it was gone. I was given the all clear to start trying again. So fast-forward, 3 more cycles of TTC since that time, and no pregnancy. I decided I was sick of waiting, so I requested to start Clomid....and here I am. I just finished my first cycle on Monday, so keeping my fingers crossed this month. Sorry for the long story, but as many of you probably know, it's very therapeutic to get it out. Other than TTC, we like to spend our time outdoors, especially camping and going to the beach. We live in mid-Michigan, so driving to one of the great lakes is only a couple hours away. We also bought a house last year, so we've been doing a lot of landscaping and gardening this year. Keeps me busy, and keeps my mind off things! I work as a nurse practitioner in breast cancer surgery. It's a demanding job, but I really love it. So glad to have found this site. It's rather addicting
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Post by momof4angels on Sept 12, 2010 12:37:57 GMT -5
Hi..I'm Janetta. Use to post here before after 2nd and third losses. had 4th loss in may of this year.
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