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Post by Peanutsmommy on May 7, 2010 22:27:04 GMT -5
On April 27, 2006 my daughter Sarah Allison was born sleeping at 31 weeks due to a placenta abruption. After she went to heaven, I thought I would lose my mind. My heart was broken and continues to break each day b/c I miss her so much. However, I had the urge to nurture which is natural after giving birth to a child, but I did not have a baby to hold. After several month, my DH and I decided to become foster parents. We felt that we could give a child something needed such as a nurturing home and a child could give us something in return. A child to nurture. We felt everyone would benefit. So, in December 2006 we became state licensed foster parents. We began fostering in January 2007. We fostered 4 children from January 2007 to July 2008 and felt we were doing a very important job and that we were making a difference in a child's life. That was our goal. We wanted to do something important and what is more important than a child. In August 2008, we began fostering a 11 month old baby girl. She was developmentally delayed and had no attachments to anyone or anything including her parents. To make a long story short, we are now in the process of adopting this baby girl. At first we told the social workers that this child needed younger parents and that we were not fostering hoping to adopt a child. However, DH and I began seeing how this child had made so much improvement and how much she loved us. She even formed attachments after fostering her nearly a year. Therefore, we along with our family's blessing decided to adopt this child. We knew we loved her but wanted the best for her, so we finally felt that we were what she needed and she was what we needed. I have a son who is 27 years old and he never had any doubts that we should adopt her. My son has always been her Bubby. We are looking for the adoption to be final in June. However, she has felt like ours for some time now. So now our adventure begins.
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Post by ~MamaKat~ on May 8, 2010 9:07:18 GMT -5
that is great that you are able to give her something she wouldnt have had elsewere.
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Post by kjb96a on May 8, 2010 20:32:32 GMT -5
That is amazing! I'm so happy for your decision and your love for this precious soul! Happy Mother's Day!
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Post by karybeth on May 9, 2010 8:12:56 GMT -5
That is great you are adopting her. Since she had so much trouble bonding, taking her out of your house would probably be very bad for her. Even if you are older, you will make great forever parents.
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Post by ladyann on May 10, 2010 7:36:18 GMT -5
Beautiful  Thank you for sharing. I look forward to being a foster parent one day and maybe falling in love as you have |
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Post by Peanutsmommy on May 10, 2010 19:30:57 GMT -5
Thank you all for your support. I hope that in some way I can help someone else that is considering fostering and/or adoption. I am no expert but I can share my experience. It's funny, but I worry that as she gets older and I get older that she may feel strange b/c her parents are somewhat older than her friends' parents. I just want the best for her. My DH and I talked it over with my son that if anything should ever happen to the both of us he has agreed to raise his little sister. Sorry, I just go from one thing to another.
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Post by ~MamaKat~ on May 11, 2010 18:15:45 GMT -5
I think that she is the luckiest girl in the world to have so many people around her who will love her and take care of her. as long as you can still love her when your old and senile (LOL)I think she will be fine.
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Post by Peanutsmommy on May 11, 2010 19:15:10 GMT -5
I sure hope so. hehehe
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Post by marianne on Jan 9, 2011 6:07:58 GMT -5
You'er only in your forties! She'll have heaps of friends with mums your age, and without the cool journey of how that happened!
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Post by candace on Jan 9, 2011 12:01:54 GMT -5
Just saw this and wanted to say that many of the kids I teach have parents who are "age-advantaged"  You'll fit right in! |
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Post by Peanutsmommy on Jan 10, 2011 22:35:32 GMT -5
Thanks ladies. I appreciate the encouragement regarding my age and my Breezie who is so full of energy. Another thing, she is a Daddy's girl and her physical features do resemble me and my husband. Her personality. . .she is just like her mother.
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Post by alyk on Jan 10, 2011 23:46:33 GMT -5
That is wonderful. I'm glad you are enjoying it.
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Post by msmarib on Jan 16, 2011 3:58:37 GMT -5
We are "age-advantaged" too. DH is 47 and I'm 38. I have lots of gray in my head nowadays. I asked my DS what he thought about having parents our age and he thought it was cool. I think we're the trend nowadays. More women are waiting until later. DH and I are also considering adoption through a foster agency for our 4th child. Not sure if my body can handle a 4th and I really want one more. I love how open your heart is. I've been asking God to open my heart for whatever/whoever he's sending my way, too. Mari |
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Thank you for sharing. I look forward to being a foster parent one day and maybe falling in love as you have 
You'll fit right in!