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Post by Rose on Apr 4, 2007 19:22:32 GMT -5
I emailed them to Clara last night. She is putting them together and sending them off to Oprah. I also submitted 3 emails saying that I have them and would be happy to share them with Oprah.
~ Rose
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Post by winter on Apr 5, 2007 16:21:41 GMT -5
Wow, I never knew you could take your baby home with you... That would have been the most precious gift I could have been given at the time...
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Post by mistygrl70 on Apr 11, 2007 11:29:58 GMT -5
Clara I had a no h/b no movement u/s at 12.2 weeks. Immediately was handed 1 pamphlet. 1/2 paragraph involved "emotions" the rest "procedure" Dr recommended a d/c. Never said nething about saving my baby never knew I had the option at all  . Because I am not american she suggest I apply for Medicaid for coverage. The day following the devestating appt I did so. 10-15 days they told me. I almost fainted.. I would have to carry my baby that long? knowing he's gone?. I was advised by the dr to use "pills" "at home". . she/they did not tell me I could "save" the baby for cremation or nething. I flushed my baby. You have NO idea the guild/pain sadness I live with everyday knowing I did that... wonderin wth I was thinking? why didn't I ask questions? why should I have had to I couldn't think byond "my baby is gone". I had just seen him 7 days earlier on u/s kicking and moving ..even got a pic. Now that is all I have left. I think "emergency" procedure coverage for non-americans needs a change. Can they expect a woman to go through that? 15 days later I got my letter denying me..becuase they "lost" the form my dr filled out..which meant "re-apply" another 15 days.. There is no better person to stand up and speak out for us all then you. You are a wise woman and speak very eloquently.. please know how forever deeply grateful I am to have had this site the past upcoming 3 years. No one understands my guild more then the women here.. no one understands my emptiness more then the women here.. no one understands why I still cry.. more then the women here.. and no one understands more what we are coping with.. then YOU. Many prayers it's God's time for us all to be seen/heard and our children and thier losses acknowledged. God bless, |
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Post by Clara Hinton on Apr 12, 2007 15:41:55 GMT -5
Dear SG Family,
I have been working very hard getting information mailed, emailed, and sent by DVD to Oprah. Even if God has somebody else in mind to be the voice for grieving parents, I am trying my best to get all of the information I have to Oprah so that she can grasp hold of the whole picture and understand all of the misconceptions, nonvalidation, lack of communication, and lack of support given to those parents who experience a miscarriage or stillbirth.
Please continue to pray with me, and continue sending your thoughts to Oprah. When enough people speak out, she will listen. And, when Oprah listens, she does so with her heart, and I know that she will help bring about changes that are needed so much.
I'm so very sorry to hear of all of the additional pain you all have endured. Losing a baby is enough pain without the additional grief and burden of guilt added onto your grieving hearts.
My sincere love to all. Let's keep this ball in motion. It's time to bring these issues to the forefront and get some changes made!
Love,
Clara
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Post by Rose on May 8, 2007 20:52:11 GMT -5
Oprah had her show. . . I'm so upset that she didn't even contact you.  |
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Post by Clara Hinton on May 9, 2007 13:37:42 GMT -5
Rose, Please don't lose hope about this. Oprah is a very intelligent lady and she knows just what she is looking for on her shows. We (Silent Grief) might not have been what she needed this time, but......there will be other times. Miscarriage and stillbirth awareness is gaining a lot of momentum (finally), and I believe our voices will still be heard. Also, Oprah has another show coming up on "loss" (which includes child loss). Requirements were to submit a DVD by May 1 with your contact information, your story of loss, how you got through, what was/is inspirational, and your message to others. I did send in a DVD by May 1, so I solicit your prayers on behalf of Silent Grief for this. Notification of interest from Oprah will be by May 18. I have a feeling that many, many more shows will be dedicated to child loss. All of this is in God's timing. We (silent grief) will get to have our voices heard!  Keep praying, please. Love, Clara |
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Post by pams on May 11, 2007 15:36:40 GMT -5
They had the show already? I missed it? Ugh. I was being so careful to watch to see when this was going to be on. When was it aired?
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Post by Clara Hinton on May 11, 2007 18:51:05 GMT -5
Rose or anybody else that saw the show, Can you provide a link to the show (or show title)? I can't even find it in the archives which day the show aired.  I know that the Today show had a segment this week on miscarriage, but I didn't catch Oprah's show on m/c and stillbirth. I was wondering how the show unfolded. Was there just a brief segment, or was there a 5 or 10-minute segment (or more) devoted to m/c and stillbirth? I, too, wish I had seen the show. Thanks for your help. Love, Clara |
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Post by dkh0728 on May 15, 2007 20:16:41 GMT -5
Clara, I have been a member of these boards since 2002, I was under a different screen name then. I can't tell you what a blessing you and all of the members of Silent Grief have been to me. I have lost 4 babies all due to early miscarriage. I started on I had a miscarriage and have been on PAL and now MAL. When I had bad days and no one else understood I could come here and find peace and someone to tell me it was OK to grieve and hurt and that I was normal. When I got pregnant with my daughter and I had question after question and worry after worry you all were here and now as a mom to a LC when I have questions or when I am missing my babies that are not here with me..the support and love is still here waiting I can't begin to express to you what a godsend you and Silent Grief are to me. Thank you. I will continue to pray on this issue...they can't ignore us forever  Love, Dawn |
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Post by Clara Hinton on May 16, 2007 13:49:50 GMT -5
Dawn, Thanks so much for the kind comments as well as the prayers. I appreciate that more than you know. SilentGrief.com is my dream-come-true for being an encouragement to grieving parents and families suffering child loss. I love Oprah so much and I appreciate all of the good she does in this world. It is my constant prayer that soon she will become a very strong voice for grieving parents, too. You are so right--she cannot ignore us forever. Let's continue to pray and continue to ask. Love, Clara PS Your picture is beautiful! Absolutely beautiful! |
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Post by Rose on May 17, 2007 18:48:34 GMT -5
Well, now I can't find it. I know that I watched one day and there was a woman on it talking about how she dealt with the loss of her child. Maybe it was something else.
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Post by Clara Hinton on May 21, 2007 17:30:52 GMT -5
Rose, I still feel like Oprah is going to talk to us (the family at SG). Even if she already had one show, that doesn't mean that she won't have more. Besides, we're not going to give up emailing her, are we? Heaven knows I've been trying for almost 10 years. I'm not about to stop now! ;D We have a lot of good work to accomplish! I want to see so many positive changes come about for grieving parents. No way am I stopping~no way! Love, Clara |
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Post by wuvmyangel93 on May 24, 2007 15:05:34 GMT -5
Wanted to share that even AOL is thinking stillbirth is something to be acknowledge as they supported the states offering stillbirth certificates when the state governors in many states are saying they should not be issued.
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Post by Clara Hinton on May 25, 2007 0:00:39 GMT -5
We are making progress, but it's so, so slow. I still think we need an "Oprah" to get this entire movement rolling. We're way behind the time for acknowledging miscarriages and stillbirths and child loss as a whole. Any little step forward, though, is a step in the right direction. Thanks for sharing this news! Love, Clara |
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. Because I am not american she suggest I apply for Medicaid for coverage. The day following the devestating appt I did so. 10-15 days they told me. I almost fainted.. I would have to carry my baby that long? knowing he's gone?.
