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Post by heidiforever on Mar 30, 2008 20:40:03 GMT -5
updated in my 3rd post!
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Post by ccrosby on Mar 31, 2008 8:08:34 GMT -5
Name of Child~Dustin Alan Crosby Son of ~ Rob and Corrina Crosby (ccrosby) younger brother to Robyn Date of Birth ~ 4-4-1996 Date of Accident ~ 5-23-2007 Angel date ~5 -23-2007 Any other comments ~ Dustin passed from an accident at home.
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Post by amandamac on Aug 20, 2008 10:55:27 GMT -5
My husband and I just lost our son, Duncan, last week due to multiple medical problems. I was referred here for support.
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Post by missingisaiah on Aug 20, 2008 11:09:40 GMT -5
(((HUGS))) I am so sorry for the loss of Duncan. When/if you ever feel ready, please share more about your son. I hope you find much support here.
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Post by amandamac on Aug 21, 2008 6:33:49 GMT -5
My duncan was born July 12,2005 at 6:04 pm and his twin hunter was born at 6:05 pm via c-section. They were born at 27 weeks and were both a little over a pound each. You could literally fit them in the palm of your hand! I really don't know what it was like outside that day other than sunny. They were pretty healthy fisty little men for being so small. Long story short, Hunter was in the hospital about 4 months and had 2 surgerys. He is doing great these days normal 3 year old. Duncan on the other hand wasnt so lucky. He was in the hospital for 9 months and had multiple surgeries. Due to several doctor errors he came home tube feed, and having many delays looming over head! Later we would find out that he had severe Cerebral Palsy along with many other problems that come with that. Another long story short, Duncan has had many feeding tube issues ranging from infections to constant vomiting. They could never figure out the right combination of medications, tubes, and therapies. Though, through all this he was the happiest little man you would have ever met! He developed into about a 5 month old mentally. So he would coo and occatioanlly would scream to get your attention. He was awesome! He had an inviting smile and an infectious giggle. I included Duncan in all we did. From the zoo, to the swiming pool, to the science museum, coloring and painting. We made sure he did it all just like his little brother hunter and big sister Savannah! Then about 5 weeks ago he started his usual vomiting and dehydration routine so we took him in the the local childrens er and got him to a room upstairs - which is what they do about once a month when this happens. Though, duncan just didn't seem to bounce back. He got worse over night. The next day they found there was a twist in his small intestine, bowel was dead and dieing. After a late night surgery he seemed to be recovering ok. Then he developed an infection in the surgery site, so they took him back to surgery again to clean it all out and patch him back up! After that he was smileing and talking and doing great! Until he got into a coughting spell and couldnt stop. The surgery site reveled its nasty little secret . . it hadn't worked and it had been leaking all along just not showing up till he caughed and opened his tummy up. Yet another long story short, they wanted us to do another surgery to take more intestine out which would leave him just enough to survive. He woud have even more medical problems! We decided enough was enough for him. We had to make the hardest decision ever. . . we decided to make him comfortable and let him go. Duncan Hayes McAdow lived another 6 days after that choice was made. He received his angel wings on August 12, 2008 he was 3 years and 1 month old! Sorry so long he just has a great l o n g story!
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Post by missingisaiah on Aug 21, 2008 7:23:07 GMT -5
I am so sorry for all you had to watch Duncan endure. He sounds like a sweet, lovable little guy.
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Post by neverthesameagain on Aug 23, 2008 10:49:20 GMT -5
(((hugs))) Amandamac. I am so very sorry for your loss of little Duncan. Welcome to the board and please do feel free to come anytime you need to talk.
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Post by holleigh on Aug 23, 2008 11:56:06 GMT -5
((Amandamac)) I am so sorry for the loss of your twin Duncan. He sounds like a true fighter and he is lucky to have had such a loving Mommy to care for him on earth. I believe he did earn his angel wings and that he is watching down upon you and his twin Hunter. My daughter Jaiden had a 2 1/2 year old brother she absolutely adored. I am sure she is helping to care for and love Duncan now.
I hope you find some comfort here at SG. Being able to share our sorrow is therapuetic for us all. The women here are wonderful, as I am sure you can already tell.
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Post by gabeandgavinsmommy on Aug 29, 2008 22:21:12 GMT -5
I am so sorry about your sweet little Duncan :-( I also had twin boys at 27 weeks. Gabe had a bunch of surgeries but is fine now, other than having Cystic Fibrosis. His twin, Gavin passed away at 6 1/2 months. He never left the hospital. His lungs were just too bad. It's hard looking at your surviving twin and thinking "there should be 2" :-(
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Post by almasmom on Oct 18, 2008 17:31:22 GMT -5
~Alma~ Daughter of Hilary and David Date of Birth ~ 9/6/07 Date of first hospitalization from symptoms ~ 10/9/07 Date of diagnosis of SMA (Spinal muscular atrophy) ~ 11/26/07 Date of Passing ~ 1/21/08 Age at Passing ~ 4.5 months Any other comments ~
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Post by lasas on Nov 20, 2008 10:26:53 GMT -5
Braedwyn Gregorivich Lasas Former and Arrowen Valentina Lasas Fromer Parents: Gregor Former and Nicole Lasas Braedwyn 6/6/04 - 9/12/07 Arrowen 8/8/08 - 10/30/08 Braedwyn died from unknown causes. Very healthy and never sick. One minute he was fine, said he was tired and then just went. He was so funny and a total prankster. He was already reading. He loved people and life. Arrowen was born with Trisomy 18. We did not know she had this. She was a real fighter and seemed to get better and plumper, but then started having spastic fits. Her last night, I woke at 4:30 to feed her (g-tube) . Then woke at 5:20 and she was still alive. My husband woke at 6Am and she was gone. Life makes no sense. I am thankful I got to be mom to two wonderful kids, but utterly crestfallen that our time together ended. My husband and I are tight, but spend a lot of time being depressed zombies.
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Post by cherie on Dec 24, 2008 12:06:29 GMT -5
OUr twin son, Benjamin drown two years ago (11/17/06) at age 10 1/2 months on our other son's third birthday. We are all heart broken. We remember our twin, Benjamin with messages tied to balloons from his singleton brothers and surviving twin sister on her birthday. We also remember Benjamin on the anniversary of his death by lighting candles in honor for him. We think about him all the time. We have Benjamin bears we play with also. Please let me know of other ways you honor your angel. Also, tell me how you cope with the holidays, make it fun for survivign children, help them grieve, and keep their precious memories alive forever. We did four cycles of In Vitro fertilization again with the frozen embryos from when our twins were conceived. I was crying so much throughout these holidays again that the implants did not work. I know after my daugthers bithday (Benjamin's surviving twin) that I will calm down again. Our faith keeps us going. We make a baby Jesus cake and a Benjamin cake with his twins sister's name on it also. Thanks for your suggestions on getting through the holidays in a happy manner.
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Post by abctryon on Feb 17, 2009 19:34:19 GMT -5
~Baylee Isabelle Tryon~ Daughter Of Amoreena Irene and Christopher Soren Tryon Born: December 23, 2006 Passed: February 6, 2009 ~ 2 Years Old ~ Baylee was a wonderful child. She was born with down syndrome, which caused her to develop leukemia. She beat the leukemia once but relapsed shortly after. During a Bone marrow transplant, Baylee had some medical complications, she started bleeding into her lungs. Her father and I were lucky enough to hold her hand as she left this life. We are thankful for every minute we got to spend with her. ~
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Post by stephaniesmommy on Mar 28, 2009 18:57:16 GMT -5
Hello to all,
As some of you may know, i recently officially joined this board . I have been a lurker since early October/later September 2008. I felt compelled to join so I could repspond to Avigails mom who so recently lost her precious daughter and I could so identify in the wracking , gut wrenching emotions , lack of sleep and torture she is going through and i just wanted to let her know i feel so much for her.
My life was basically fine until September 18th 2008. Hurricaine Ike had just come through our part of Texas the weekend prior to this date i've mentioned. This day , September 18th 2008 is the day that my life radically changed . I HAVE four children- 1 son who is 20, a daughter who is 19, a daughter how is 16 and my youngest daughter -my angel - who is 10 forever because of the events of the day.
She didn't have a bike that was functioning before that day. But, she had shared with me that she wanted to try to " get into shape" and my husband aired up the tires on her bike after school. He also aired up the tires on a bigger bike that was mine. It ended up her bike was bent- so, he lowered the seat on the other bike and made sure she was able to ride it. He said she did just fine and allowed her to ride around the block twice. I was leaving for work as she was coming up the street. I asked her how the bike was- she said- " it's actually perfect" those were the last words she would ever say to me. I told her she could have the bike and watched as she went into the driveway where my husband waited for her.
He said she was in the house when he left for work. We usually worked opposite shifts- he a police dispatcher- me a nurse- but i was working for someone else. My 19 year old daughter was home with her. He said he told her to stay in and not to go out anymore that night and that we'd need to get her a helmet. He left he said at 615 pm. Per the accident report it seems as though she immediately got onto the bike as the time of the accident was a litte more than 5 mintues after that. I think she got confused about which block her had let her go around and the way she went took her directly in the path of a very busy 55 mph road. A witness said she wasn't even looking- her eyes were on the ground- she wasn't peddling but going forward with her feet- probably feeling the wind in her hair and dreaming of 10 pokemon on the back of the bike. I don't think she ever knew what happened. There was immediate help and they intubated her and brought her to the hospital i work at in the next town over. I was , of course oblivious. It wasn't until my husband got to work and they were working the accident that they put it all together and called home only to find out she wasn't there. They called me to go to the ER. Horrifying memories. It was her, my baby, laying so still in that bed. She had been intubated, but was still. They said her brain was swollen and did we want her sent to childrens hosptial in dallas. We said yes, we did. I knew it was bad- we prayed for a miracle over her. i knew this is what it was going to take. A miracle. We prayed and cried . The dallas doctors said it looked like brain death, but we needed to be sure. I'll spare myself the details here, but her heart gave out after 3pm on the 19th and that was it, she was gone. She was gone- poof. It seemed so surreal. I kept thinking - this doesn't happen to me , my family-this happens to other people. We donated the organs that we could , so that we could have the chance of having her live on in others and then also- to help someone else. Then came the horrifying experience of planning a funeral- i am sure you all know exactly what i am talking about here. I just kept thinking- this didn't really happen. We were numb- my family all came here from Nebraska and Kansas and Oregon. It didn't seem real- any of it. She was 10- we had just moved back in with her dad two months prior- she was 10- I just kept going through every detail in my mind- blow by blow and kept saying- it is so unlikely this really happened. But it had. Stephanie was my youngest. She was a good kid. She was sort of a square peg at times- my only child with current husband. The next child was 6. She had a hard time getting along with other kids at times. They would tease her- but that all started changing when she was about 8 1/2. SHe met a girl in our apartment complex- another girl who was similar in looks to Stephanie and the same type of unique personality. Stephanie had finally found acceptance and these two girls fast became best friends. They spent the night at each others houses. They watched movies together, laughed, played games , went swimming- they were best friends. Stephanie's dad and i were so thankful. Stephanie began to blossum. She gained confidence. She certainly had a unique perspective. I remember being upset one day and Stephanie saying to ME- Mommy I know you're upset , but i am not sure why. She said to me " Sure i've had some bad things happen to me in my life- but i've had THOUSANDS of good things happen to me " She then went on to say how happy she was to be a part of the family she was , live in the town she did and have her best friend. Stephanie was very grateful. Also, this year she had gotton her best friends teachers from last year , so the other girl gave her all the information on them- she had gotton a WII for her birthday , her dad and i were back in the same house and she kept telling me over and over " I've got such a good set up this year" and then she go through that List.
I have a tremendous faith in God and I am so looking forward to seeing Stephanie again in heaven some day. For right now- i am here - my living children need me and i have a 22 month old granddaughter that i help to take care of and she definately needs me.
None of this takes away that i desparately miss Stephanie. It was such a shock and sometimes i still don't believe it. Ihaven't gone to counseling. I am not oppposed to it however. I just can't think of what someone could say that would make any of this ok. I feel robbed sometimes, in disbelief and numb alot of the times. Yet- i know my other children and grandchild need me and i keep going. I am heartbroken about all the plans i had for her. I knew the other kids would be gone and she would be the last one here and we would do so much then. None of it will happen.
Stephanie loved animals- especially cats and she had just gotton her cat " julie" from her best friend in May and we also had gotton two kittens in June. Her favorite color was pink and her room was painted pink. She loved the pokemon, all the nickelodian shows, hannah montana. She was a thriving Pre-tween. She was looking forward to getting her period( i have no idea why). She had an infectious laugh. She loved hot and sour soup, shrimp, chicken tenders , noodles. She loved to read, she loved the boardwalk shopping center in shreveport LA. She was friendly- often giving hugs to all who looked like they needed one. She was very much alive one day- working on going to school- and then just gone- snipped out of our life here on earth. We really are just limping along.
I know this was lengthy- making up on lost time. I miss her . I know you all understand. My heart just aches for her and for all of us. I do have a myspace page for her. I go there every day and write to her. I let her know what is going on here. I ask her to come to my dreams. I want to see her. I have been reading the messages here and it has been a source of support even though i hadn't said anything officially.
Thank you for listening. Cindy Link to Post - Back to Top Logged
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Post by momma2ryliebean on Apr 27, 2009 23:43:36 GMT -5
~Michael Caldwell Guzik~ Only Son of Jessica Guzik Siblings: Rylie, 6 and Ariana, 2 Date of Birth ~ January 21, 2009 Date of Passing ~ April 19, 2009 Age at Passing ~ 3 days shy of 3 months old Any other comments ~ My sweet baby boy passed away from SIDS. This type of thing should never happen to a family, but this is the 2nd time it has happened in our family in the past 3 1/2 years. My cousin's baby, my godson, passed due to SIDS on Oct 2, 2004
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