Post by playne on Aug 30, 2015 15:23:23 GMT -5
my husband and I had a miscarriage last year in July (2014) around 6 weeks pregnant, we weren't trying to get pregnant but we were still very excited. It seemed almost impossible for us to get over the loss but eventually we did. This year, we were trying. We got pregnant in about three months of trying. We were over the moon excited. We saw the baby at our 9 week 1 day appointment (July 24, 2015) and even got to see the baby moving around and heard the heart, 160 bpm. They insisted on a Pap smear since I was a few months over due: we asked several times if it would harm the baby and we were reassured it was perfectly safe. The pap was super painful and the pap brush came out super bright red with blood. Again I was told this was normal and nothing to worry about. I bled/spotted for two days after (again, doctor told us it was normal). Then at what should have been 12 weeks pregnant, I passed a small clot (dime size), went immediately to the doctor for an ultrasound. No heart beat and baby was measuring just over 9 weeks! I didn't feel any different for the past three weeks when apparently our baby was dead. I was sent straight into surgery for a D&C (August 13, 2015), had bleeding the same day for a few hours but that was it.
I can't help but to think that the Pap smear was the cause of the miscarriage (even though doctors only spit out statistical data that one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage and we don't know why)... Since this was our second documented miscarriage (we suspect our third loss though), and this was our first D&C, we had genetic testing done. We have our appointment on September 11 to review the results and possibly test me for any issues.
I am 31 yr old healthy female... And it doesn't get any easier with each miscarriage. I don't know how many more times I can handle this. Does anyone else have a similar story where they feel the pap was potentially the cause? And how soon did you start trying to conceive again?
How long did you grieve? It's like the elephant in the room, if I ignore it... I'm fine. But if I think about it at all... I fall apart. And I can't fall apart; my household, my job, and our life won't allow me to fall apart. Do you feel the same way?
I can't help but to think that the Pap smear was the cause of the miscarriage (even though doctors only spit out statistical data that one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage and we don't know why)... Since this was our second documented miscarriage (we suspect our third loss though), and this was our first D&C, we had genetic testing done. We have our appointment on September 11 to review the results and possibly test me for any issues.
I am 31 yr old healthy female... And it doesn't get any easier with each miscarriage. I don't know how many more times I can handle this. Does anyone else have a similar story where they feel the pap was potentially the cause? And how soon did you start trying to conceive again?
How long did you grieve? It's like the elephant in the room, if I ignore it... I'm fine. But if I think about it at all... I fall apart. And I can't fall apart; my household, my job, and our life won't allow me to fall apart. Do you feel the same way?