Will old medical records tell me if my baby was a boy or gir

[laurenz]

I had a miscarriage over 28 years ago. Back then no one explained anything about what was happening. I went for an ultrasound, was told 'there is no heartbeat. You're going to have a miscarriage '. I was in shock. My husband met me at home and we called a new doctor. He explained I would possibly need a D&C to make sure everything came out. I went to hospital, and had a D&C. That was it. Now, years later a friend just miscarried her 20 week old son. They cleaned him, dressed him and the hospital was just amazing. A funeral is planned for tomorrow. I can't help but wish I had been told I could see my baby. I was so young, upset and uninformed. I was only 14 weeks but my baby must have looked like a baby. I feel terrible that I didn't do anything for him or her b

[monkeygirl]

No, I'm sorry. You are not going to find the answers you are looking for. The testes do not descend in a baby until around 16 weeks. While at 14 weeks the organ systems are all formed and working your baby is not quite all formed and looking baby like yet. I'm thinking your friend was somewhere in her late second trimester if she was able to physically dress the baby. Even at 21 or 22 weeks that baby is very, very tiny and they do not make any type of clothes to fit.

CVS testing would have been the only way to decide gender back then and I'm not sure it was available then. I think it was fairly new when I was pregnant 10 years ago.

Take comfort in the fact that there was nothing to see. You may have partially passed some of the fetus on your own and the d&c was ordered to get the remaining tissue. Your precious baby did not look like a baby yet. It was way too tiny to even begin to decipher what was what. I have several years of anatomy classes under my belt and in in my third semester of ob/peds in nursing school right now.

My miscarriage was at 6 weeks and I can at least take comfort in the heart wasn't fully formed and working and didn't even have a brain, just a forming neural tube. But I still lost a baby to me. It just stopped growing at one point and we will never know why. But I know the questions can drive you crazy. The unknown is hard for humans to understand and we all hate the unknown.

I am very sorry for your loss.