Today was supposed to be my due date.

[missingpiece]

Hi everyone,

This site was recommended to me by a friend because she got such great comfort from 'talking' with all of you.

As my thread title says, today was supposed to be my due date. The day my beautiful little boy was supposed to meet the world. He was my first pregnancy and while he was an enormous surprise we couldn't wait for him to arrive. His dad, who was so proud to be blessed with another little one, bailed out of our relationship two days after Christmas. I feel incredibly alone and forgotten. Today should have been a very different day, full of excitement, wonder and love.

Thanks for letting me vent.

[libralise]

Dear missingpiece, The healing path after loss can be so tumultuous and up and down; and then you say that your partner left you recently, it just becomes loss after loss entwined. Anniversaries can be especially difficult. My due date (I miscarried in in June 2012) has also been creeping up on me, and it stirs up so many different thoughts and emotions. Please be gentle on your tender heart, and please know that I am keeping you in my heart and prayers, as are so many other women. You are not alone, sending healing and loving energy to you. I am glad that you found us here and I hope that you find some comfort in these pages.

[missingpiece]

Jan 20, 2015 20:10:19 GMT -5 libralise said:

Dear missingpiece, The healing path after loss can be so tumultuous and up and down; and then you say that your partner left you recently, it just becomes loss after loss entwined. Anniversaries can be especially difficult. My due date (I miscarried in in June 2012) has also been creeping up on me, and it stirs up so many different thoughts and emotions. Please be gentle on your tender heart, and please know that I am keeping you in my heart and prayers, as are so many other women. You are not alone, sending healing and loving energy to you. I am glad that you found us here and I hope that you find some comfort in these pages.

Thank you, L and I'm so sorry for your loss, too. You're right about the ups and downs; most days I'm fine but some days the grief is raw. I remember my first period after losing him was physically and emotionally painful.
It really hurts that his dad didn't reach out to me. He knows the date was coming up and I even sent him a picture of the candle I lit for our boy. It angers me that he didn't acknowledge it. Perhaps he did in his own way, but by not reaching out I feel as though he's saying "you and our baby don't matter to me".

[libralise]

I completely understand what you are saying about him not reaching out to you. My husband and I have separated post-miscarriage, and the anniversary of my miscarriage date was in June. He knows how much of a struggle this has been for me, and he too justified to himself that he did not need to mention it to me. And I was SO angry and hurt... It exemplified to me how different he and I are - I would never withhold a courtesy or a caring gesture (particularly one regarding such a significant and emotionally charged issue) out of spite or because I was angry, in my opinion there are big enough issues that trump being angry about something. However, what I have learned, is that people are different from one another and we cope with things differently and some people chose to do things or not do things, same as your man, and then we are allowed to feel how we want to feel about it. Please know though I completely appreciate and understand how you are feeling about that. Much love! xoxx

[foreverfrenchie]

sending you hugs.....my due date for my angelina is coming up and even though it was 11 years ago it feels like yesterday...the pain get better but when you least expect it it does sneak up on you ...and now that it has i had to come to the place that helped me so much when i lost my baby ....just remember to be kind to yourself which i know it is hard cause all the what ifs come up .....just sending you a beautiful big hug and wishing your baby a beautiful heavenly bday