Post by indyrocker21 on Sept 30, 2014 19:24:27 GMT -5
I'm 33 and have several health issues, which would put me and a baby at higher risk. I have Gastroparesis, which is a paralysis in my stomach that causes foods to not digest well or at a normal speed; this results in my inability to eat and digest many healthy foods unless I want to run the likelihood of nausea and vomiting. This disorder would leave me and a baby with poor nutrition. Secondly, I have history of Deep Vein Thrombosis (DVT) and Pulmonary Embolism (PE). Because of the history of blood clots in my leg and lungs, I've been put on Coumadin, a blood thinner that has negative effects on fetuses, such as deformities. I have to be on a blood thinner for life, and it's been STRONGLY advised that I NOT get pregnant while on Coumadin.
So, what happened?? I unintentionally became pregnant on Coumadin. As soon as I found out I was pregnant 1.5 weeks ago, i called the doctor who advised me to stop Coumadin and put me on Lovinox blood thinning injections. I had 4 days to be worried and doing research on Coumadin effects before I began to miscarry. My miscarriage lasted another 5 days. I finished miscarrying just 3 days ago, but I'm feeling sooooo many emotions--relief, loss, heartache, etc.
Rationally, it's probably best that I miscarried and that I NOT pursue attempting to get pregnant again, based on my health issues. After all, there's a good likelihood that there will be complications, that I could die, that the baby could die, or that the baby will carry the genetic predisposition for clotting disorders. Emotionally, I feel too much to describe. I especially feel so sad about all the things I will miss with this child. I've ALWAYS wanted to birth a child, to have a "mini me," so to speak. I've wanted to have all those "firsts" with a kid--first smile, first step, first of every holiday, etc. I've had names picked out for years--Gabriella Adelle or Alexander James. I'd love to dress my child up every day and love it like it deserves...rock it to sleep every night...
I'm torn up with what could have been, PLUS the reality of what was for just a moment. I was pregnant...after years of unprotected sex, I didn't even believe I could GET pregnant. And here I was just a mere 1.5 weeks ago staring at a positive test, then going back repeatedly to see if it had changed. I didn't have time to even wrap my head around my pregnancy before it was gone, painfully and abruptly.
I don't even know why I'm writing all this. Perhaps to process, perhaps to get feedback, perhaps to memorialize my unborn child. All I know is I'm lost with what to do now and what I want for my future--to try to have a baby despite heightened risks or to get my tubes tied and kill the dream.
So, what happened?? I unintentionally became pregnant on Coumadin. As soon as I found out I was pregnant 1.5 weeks ago, i called the doctor who advised me to stop Coumadin and put me on Lovinox blood thinning injections. I had 4 days to be worried and doing research on Coumadin effects before I began to miscarry. My miscarriage lasted another 5 days. I finished miscarrying just 3 days ago, but I'm feeling sooooo many emotions--relief, loss, heartache, etc.
Rationally, it's probably best that I miscarried and that I NOT pursue attempting to get pregnant again, based on my health issues. After all, there's a good likelihood that there will be complications, that I could die, that the baby could die, or that the baby will carry the genetic predisposition for clotting disorders. Emotionally, I feel too much to describe. I especially feel so sad about all the things I will miss with this child. I've ALWAYS wanted to birth a child, to have a "mini me," so to speak. I've wanted to have all those "firsts" with a kid--first smile, first step, first of every holiday, etc. I've had names picked out for years--Gabriella Adelle or Alexander James. I'd love to dress my child up every day and love it like it deserves...rock it to sleep every night...
I'm torn up with what could have been, PLUS the reality of what was for just a moment. I was pregnant...after years of unprotected sex, I didn't even believe I could GET pregnant. And here I was just a mere 1.5 weeks ago staring at a positive test, then going back repeatedly to see if it had changed. I didn't have time to even wrap my head around my pregnancy before it was gone, painfully and abruptly.
I don't even know why I'm writing all this. Perhaps to process, perhaps to get feedback, perhaps to memorialize my unborn child. All I know is I'm lost with what to do now and what I want for my future--to try to have a baby despite heightened risks or to get my tubes tied and kill the dream.