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Post by honeysucklehope on Jun 9, 2014 12:50:34 GMT -5
I am new to this message board (and message boards in general). On April 23rd I suffered a miscarriage while on a family vacation. I was 8 weeks at the time, and was two days from my first scheduled OB appt. This was going to my our first child. We were so excited and happy about this baby. This child was loved and planned from the moment it was conceived, so the loss was a bitter pill to swallow.
After a month, I was starting to feel like my old self. And after everything that happened I planned a fun girls weekend for me and a few friends to get together. Just a low key girls weekend would do a lot of good for me or at least I thought. This same weekend I found out that two of my friends on the trip were pregnant. One of the girls due dates will be painfully close to what mine would have been. Only a handful of friends (2 girls on our trip) know about our loss. So the bulk of my fun girls getaway was spent hearing about the other girls' exciting news. It felt like all conversations where about children, babies and pregnancy. While the others were asleep, I cried myself to sleep.
I am having a very hard time getting out of bed lately and focusing at work. Does this get better? I hate having feelings of jealousy toward my friends. I remember how exciting it was to be pregnant and I pray to healthy pregnancies for both of them. I don't wish this on anyone. Any words of wisdom, etc would be helpful. |
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Post by emily on Jun 10, 2014 11:58:16 GMT -5
It's been over four years since my last loss and I still struggle with seeing baby bumps and infants. It hurts. It may always hurt. It's ok to distance yourself from your pregnant friends. If they're truly friends, they will understand. I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you find comfort here
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Post by sunny on Jun 11, 2014 19:23:33 GMT -5
I don't have any advice other than it's okay to be open with them about what happened. I've found that talking about it makes me feel better, keeping my feelings to myself is miserable. I just sit and stew about it. If you don't think you can open up to them about it you can put all of your feelings down in a journal.
My sister in law is due 3 days after our date. I was afraid everything would be awkward but thankfully it hasn't been that bad.
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Post by justlostanangel on Jul 15, 2014 19:05:55 GMT -5
It's OK to limit your contact with pregnant people; if these are close friends, then share your news with them. True friends will support you, & respect your pain. There's nothing wrong with not attending baby showers, etc. You do what you need to so you're healthy & can recover at your own pace. It's hard, & some days will be better, some worse...but there will come a day when the sadness doesn't overshadow the entire day. Make sure you still eat as healthy as you can, and talk to your doctor if the depression gets too intense. Some times the chemistry needs some readjusting, & there's nothing wrong with taking medicine to get the brain chemistry right! ((((((HUGS))))) So sorry for the loss of your sweet little one!
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Post by trisha on Aug 10, 2014 13:30:24 GMT -5
I know exactly how you feel. I had a miscarriage the week after I found I was pregnant. The first time I got on facebook after having a miscarriage there was a friend of mind announcing that she was also pregnant and was due around the same time I was due. I just do not want to be around other expectant moms or hear the news that someone is pregnant.
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