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Post by nicegrumpy on May 24, 2010 23:43:16 GMT -5
Hello everyone! I am Angela and I joined SG in October of 2007, while I was waiting to deliver my stillborn son, Simon William at 19 weeks 6 days. It has been my saving grace and I am so thankful for the support, love and blessings I have received. These ladies have and will always mean the world to me. A little background! My Dh and I were married in August of 1997! He is the love of my life and couldn't ask for a better man ( now if he could see this and pick up his dirty clothes!!! LOL!). We chose to start TTC after 2 years of marriage, I was 23 and he was 32! We were so excited but alas after 1 and half years, we discovered that our TTC journey was going to be anything but simple and fun! We found out that DH had NO sperm due to have mumps when he was 16. And I have PCOS, which meant that we were the worst possible combo. We started fertility treatments in November of 2001, after 8 cycles of using injections and donor sperm, i finally became pregnant with my DS in July of 2003! Caleb was born healthy at 37 weeks via csection! ( breech). When he was 15 months we decide it was time to add to our family, it took us another 4 attempts before I found out that I was pregnant again. ( july 2007)! We were escastic b/c we knew that our family would be complete! My pregnancy was uneventful, other then morning sickness. At 19 weeks, I had a routine appt, my RE did u/s and found that my precious baby did not have a heartbeat. It was the most HORRIBLE news I have ever heard. My heart literally broke into pieces. We had to wait six days before I could deliver him, Simon William came into this world still, on October 22, 2007. I felt incomplete, so 4 months later, we did one cycle of injections and got pg! We were again so happy! Unfortunately that little bean, who I believe in my heart was another boy, m/c at 6weeks. So after 2 more attempts, I found out exactly one year after losing my precious Simon, that I was pregnant again. That pregnancy was full of ups and downs, but the support here helped me through it all! Rachel Lily was born healthy at 39 weeks on June 19th, 2009! Career wise: I am an operating room nurse, specializing in cardiac and vascular surgery, but can do pretty much any surgery! I have my Bachelor of Nursing! I am Canadian and proud of it!! Hobbies, include BAKING, photography and spending time with my best friends!! Thank you Clara for this support group and to all you wonderful ladies for all your love, support and encouragement!! Angela
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Post by kellyg on May 26, 2010 10:52:33 GMT -5
Hi everyone. I'm Kelly - I'm 35 I've been married to my wonderful dh for 9 1/2 years. We have one dd - Morgan - she is 2 1/2 it took us 4 years to get pg w/ her we were diagnosed w/ unexplained infertility. I joined SG in Jan 2010 after my first m/c - our angel stopped growing at 7 weeks but we didn't find out until 11 weeks 6 days. We decided to ttc again right away and I am currently 14 weeks pg and just found out we are having another girl! I am currently a SAHM and love it. I am so thankful for SG - my sisters have kept me sane and I dont know where I would be today w/o them.
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Post by dmf53 on May 27, 2010 12:32:15 GMT -5
Hello all,
My name is Dru, and I love SG and the Hinton family! (Sounds a little like an AA intro, doesn't it?) I have been here a lifetime, since the death of my son Kit, in 1999.
I have three wonderful children; a DD Michaelanne will be 30 (nah, I can't be old enough to have a THIRTY year old!) soon, Andy is 26, and Kit is forever 14. It is hard to imagine my baby as an adult. To me, he will always be that funny, sweet, sweaty little boy.
I live in Georgia, and my heart is that of a counselor, even though I have moved into administration. I stumbled across a small mention of SG and Clara in the Christian Chronicle, about the time the site went live. Can't imagine what this new normal would be, without my sisters here.
I was BLESSED to attend the SG retreat in 2008. I can't even begin to describe what that weekend was like, but my heart smiles when I think of it. It was an AWESOME experience, and hope all of you will try to attend at the next opportunity. I met new friends, as well as meet some of the people who have been walking along this road of grief since I started. Melody and Heidi have been posting "since the beginning", and Clara? She is just what you would imagine, only better.
Thanks so much, Clara and Joe (and Jimmy & Natalie), you have changed my life!
Love, Dru
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Post by bern0234 on May 27, 2010 22:21:53 GMT -5
Hello,
My name is Betty and I miscarried my first baby in February 2010 at about 10/11 weeks. Shortly thereafter my husband left. I was pretty devastated, but have been blessed to experience healing over the past few months.
I have a M.S. in Applied Economics and work as a buyer at a Fortune 500 company in Minneapolis, Minnesota. If you want to know where markets are going, how to manage finances, etc. I'm the girl to ask!
I love the Lord very much and have spent much of the last few months getting to know Him better.
I am planning to have surgery for my endometriosis later this year.
I am really glad this board was started. I love getting to know other people better.
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Post by Miss Sunflower on May 28, 2010 1:11:33 GMT -5
Just wanted to say - what's the word on another SG convention? Anyone else done anymore thinking or researching it? Should we get together a small group of us to plan it? Clara, what are your thoughts on this?
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Post by missingisaiah on May 28, 2010 8:11:37 GMT -5
I'm Brenda. I've been here since the fall of 2007. My son, Isaiah, died 10/21/06 when he was 3.5 weeks old. This place has been a sanity saver! I was laid off in Dec. last year and have been job hunting ever since. But, if it wasn't that we needed the money, I would be very happy staying home with my daughter, who was born 9/10/08. I love to read, mainly mysteries. But, To Kill a Mocking Bird is my all time favorite book. I also like to go on walks. I use to love to bake and cook. Slowly that enjoyment is coming back. I am also getting into scrapbooking again (not very good at it).
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Post by angelbabygracie on May 29, 2010 9:37:21 GMT -5
Hi there, I'm Caylee. Just after my daughter died (from the H1N1 virus) in November 2009, I recieved an email from a mutural friend who had lost her son shortly after our children were born and she told me about this website - I joined about 3 weeks or so later although I am not yet a "regular" on the boards. I check in here and there, but sometimes I just feel that I can't surround myself with it. I have an "almost" 13 year old son who has been trying to live with his dad this past year, but may be coming home soon!
I married my husband back in January, and now have a step-daughter; she is 2 years old.
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Post by bbear on May 29, 2010 11:11:47 GMT -5
hello ladies! Thanks for the board Clara! My name is brandy and I live in WNC. DH and I have been married 7 1/2 yr and have 2 living children . I suffered my first loss in July of 2005 was my first pg then found SG in attempts to be like Debs researching loss online. This place has been my lifeline at that time through my immense grief and through the nerves of my pregnancy with DD. After she was born I felt the need to step away for awhile and then came back when the nerves in my 3rd pg were bothering me-for good reason I had my second missed miscarriage in Sept of 08. I then took advice from some of the girls here (Debs and Kellysmom really love u girls for all the help and prayers) and used progestrine cream and took baby asprin for first trimester of pregnancy with Josiah and he is now going on 9 months! I love so many of the ladies here and have made good friends with some that have never had living children and some that have lost young children and others that have had stillbirth and early miscarriage. The love and support here has been wonderful. I pop in all the boards cause there are girls that mean the world to me on most of them. I pray for so many of the ladies here and am so greatful Clara and Joe have made this place for us. I started to post earlier but wanted to get all your responses read first and with 2 LO it has been a challange so on my 3rd attempt i have sucessfully posted!
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Post by MamaDances on Jun 1, 2010 2:17:50 GMT -5
Hi everyone! I'm Catie, I post over on IHAM (although not so much recently). I found out I was pregnant in late May of '08, and miscarried June 8th '08, about 2 weeks before my high school graduation, with bleeding during my paternal grandmothers funeral. Needless to say, I had a rough go of it for a while there. I joined here in April of '09, I think... and everyone here has helped me so much in learning to accept and deal with my grief. Now, most days thoughts of my son, who I named Everett Corwan (which roughly in the land of "name meanings" means courage in my heart") are little pieces of him that bring smiles to my face. I used to be a dance major, but I'm currently enrolled in community college taking a whole bunch of different classes, figuring out where to go from here. I enjoy dancing, sining, writing and spending time with my dbf. We've been together now for about 14 months. I have a beautiful 6 month old godson named Odin who is on a good day a great joy in my life. I love him tremendously. Job-wise, I currently work in sportservice, alternating between my hired position (cashier) and a position I sort of fell into with the Human Resources office of my company within the arena. Thankfully work as slowed down a bit since 60 hour work weeks and school were taking their toll. Soon, I'll be starting my summer job as summer camp playleader and I'm looking forward to saving up some good money so I can get on my feet again afters not having a job for over a year (I ended up quitting mine after Everett died and then didn't work during my first year of college because nothing fit in my hectic class schedule).
Anyway, I like to babble, but I feel I've said enough. =) BTW, thanks Clara for everything you've done for all of us!
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Post by davidsmommy on Jun 2, 2010 23:51:49 GMT -5
Hello Everyone ~
My names Michelle been here sense March of 2009... Ive been married for 3 years this August I found SG while searching for grief support boards online looking for someone that had been through what ive been through and this is the first website i came to, I lost my son David Timothy on March 20th,2009 as far as work goes I work in childcare for the last plus 6 years its what i love doing !!!!
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Post by Maria! on Jun 4, 2010 19:53:50 GMT -5
MY name is Maria. I joined in Oct 2002 just after my m/c with my angel Jordan, that HARDEST time in my life. I married 5 days later, had YEARS of depression. I went on to get pregnant quickly again and had a VERY hard time emotionally with that pregnancy but gave birth to a very healthy little girl in Oct. 2003. I was lucky enough to beable to stay home and raise her, the BEST 6 years of my life staying home with her and loving every min. of it. My m/c was so hard that I truly believed it just ruined my marriage and my relationship with my husband that we never got through it, he was a complete @$$ through the whole thing and there were many things I could NOT forgive and I just divorced my husband in Sept 09 the best decision of my life.
THEN Oct 1, 2009 (my oldests 12th b-day) I found out I was pregnant again, it was NOT planned and the biggest scariest surprise of my life. At first I was NOT happy, but I knew that I would have her, I don't believe in abortion and KNOW that I could not carry a child to hand it over to someone else. SO I had a pretty easy pregnancy with her, handed it to God from the start and just KNEW I would have a beautiful healthy baby girl in the end. That was the BEST pregnancy and so stressfree.
GOD KNOWS what he is doing, I really believe everything happens for a reason and on May 13, 2010 I gave birth at 36 weeks to the most AMAZING beautiful baby girl Alayna Fayth Roberta. It was a VERY easy birth but after her birth I nearly bled to death and poor alayna ended up in the NICU because of Apnea, the hole in the heart that is suppose to close at birth did not (thank God it did by 3 days old) and she had moconium inside me and had VERY low apgar scores. She wasn't moving or breathing at birth (according to my records, I was out of it because of the bleeding) but thank you JESUS my baby pulled through, they stopped my bleeding and gave me 2 blood transfusions (4 units of blood) and 6 days later Alayna was released from NICU and came home with mommy and her 2 big sisters.
My journey of having children is over, my family is COMPLETE and we are happy. I am a single mother and LOVE every second of my life. I enjoy parenting my girls all on my own. I could NOT ask God for a better life. I thank God EVERY SINGLE DAY for Alayna and my other 2 girls. just 10 months ago I never would have thought that bringing another baby into my life would be the BEST thing that could happen to our family but it has been!!!! She has brought so much love and happiness BACK into my family and my girls and I can NOT get enough of her.
For the FIRST time in 7.5 yrs of being at Silent Grief, I am depression FREE and HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY!!! I have not been this happy since before my miscarriage!!! God IS GOOD!!!
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Post by caz on Jun 8, 2010 12:28:46 GMT -5
Hi, my name is Carley. I am new to this site. I stumbled upon it while looking for some answers. I live in the UK and there doesn't really seem to be anything like this here so I think this site is great ;D I am still coming to terms with my m/c as it's only been 4 days and I'm still having blood tests done and have my follow up u/s tomorrow. However the lovely messages of support I have recieved on here are a real comfort and I no longer feel so alone. I have a 5 year old daughter Tiegan and had her at 18. This was my 1st pg since having her. I work with children with autism and love my job I'm hoping in time to move to the TTC board to read some more of your lovely posts and share my own. Much love to all of you xxx
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Post by tiahlynn on Jun 8, 2010 15:00:16 GMT -5
My name is Twyla Lynn Laurin, I am 21 years old. I am from Toronto, Ontario and I joined here because I just suffered my first miscarriage at exactly 4.5 months to the day almost 3 weeks ago.
My pregnancy wasn't planned but I couldnt have been more excited, scared out of my mind, but so excited and so in love with my baby from the second I found out.. ( I have ALWAYS wanted to be a mom). Everything went well, I had bad nausea but other than that not a bad pregnancy at all. My first US was scheduled for May 18th 2010 ( i would have been almost 18 weeks) but on May 17th, my water broke. I went to the hospital and they sent me home after simply telling me to come back for an ultrasound the next day.
Went back to the hospital on may 18th and they did the ultrasound, and told me my amniotic fluid levels were VERY low, but that THEY seemed to be doing ok. THIS is how I found out I was carrying twins.... they didnt do anything and sent me home again so I went to another hospital, they took blood and gave me another ultrasound and gave me antibiotics then sent me home to be on strict bedrest.
Two days later, early morning on May the 21st I woke up shivering so bad I was pretty much convulsing, I had a fever of 103.8... so I got my parents to take me straight to the hospital. once I got there they took blood and hooked me up to a whole bunch of stuff and took me for my quickest ultrasound yet... so I knew before the doctor came back to tell me... my babies were gone.
The on call obstetrician then proceeded to tell me that because of the infection, I needed to deliver them as soon as possible otherwise I could be in extreme danger of.. well... yeah.
I had already started having contractions though, and had been having them for about 2 hours at this point. When the doctor left the room I turned to my boyfriend ( who had no left my side or let go of my hand this ENTIRE time) and said I think I have to go to the bathroom... so he unhooked my IV and walked me into the washroom where I sat down and ... apparently they're not kidding when they say the pressure you feel is quite similar to you having to go to the bathroom... the baby popped out and was just hanging there. I WAS HYSTERICAL. I was a complete mess. it just... shook me. the doctor and nurses were saying you need to come back to the bed and I was like I CANT . THERE is a BABY hanging out of me. this is so gross... this is so wrong... i was just a mess... so i tried walking to the bed and the umbilical cord must have snapped under the pressure and my precious little baby boy fell onto the floor.... I made it to the bed and just was still a complete mess... i ended up throwing up from the pure shock of it.
They transferred me to labour and delivery then, and I met my OBGYN for the first time. she was AMAZING. absolutely AMAZING ... like can't even put into words how amazing she is. we delivered the second baby and the placenta and I had to stay in the hospital for a couple days, hooked up to IV for antibiotics to make sure the infection was gone so I didnt lose my uterus.
WORST experience of my life. I can't help but wonder if things would have been different if my family doctor had given me an ultrasound when I first found out I was pregnant. Her rationalization was you're young and healthy there is no reason to do one until you're like 18-20 weeks. Well if they had have done one, they would have known I was carrying twins and I would have been a highrisk pregnancy and maybe they might have caught the infection sooner. but I know there is no point dwelling on the what might have been, but it's so hard.
the hardest was coming home from the hospital and having to tell people, and having these ROCK hard boobs that leaked and leaked and leaked and just reminded me that i SHOULD have babies... it broke my heart.
forever loved. 05.21.2010 Joshua and Bentley, mommies little angels <3
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Post by kelli on Jun 11, 2010 18:48:46 GMT -5
Hi! I'm Kelli and I joined SG in May 2009 after losing my baby girl, Maggie Rose, to SIDS. She was 4 days shy of 9 months old. I have another beautiful daughter Piper who is 6 and just finished kindergarten. Our rainbow baby (boy!) is due in August - I can't wait to hold him in my arms!
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Post by sylvia on Jun 11, 2010 19:25:42 GMT -5
HI Y'all! I'm Sylvia, from Mississippi. I absolutely adore the south, especially in the winter! I came here 4/19/08, exactly 2 weeks after my first miscarriage. I had 2 beautiful perfect children from beautiful perfect pregnancies before my life turned upside down with miscarriage. Although I'm not quite as serious a researcher as Debs, I WAS researching and trying to figure out what went wrong where. I bought a book called After Miscarriage, and in the back was a list of support sites, hence SG. I had my first m/c at 10 wks 5 days...waited 2 months and was pregnant again first time TTC in June/July. I found out July 1, m/c on july 5, 2008, exactly 3 months after my first m/c. I was soo stupefied, m/c wasn't supposed to happen to me because I carried my DD and DS with NO problems whatsoever. Exactly 3 months later, I was pregnant again with our 5th baby, 3rd live child. I was terrified of m/c, but that pregnancy did end well. She turned 1 on June 2, just last week She is most likely our last. DH doesn't want anymore, but I would be open to an *accident* 10 or so years down the road I don't work, not anymore. I'm just a mommy, resigned from the local newspaper as district manager to be a mommy and travel with my DH. He does pipeline work, so we go EVERYWHERE, and I love every bit of it!
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